Part of the reason two-year-olds have tantrums is because they don’t have the words or other tools they need to express their anger or frustration fully or appropriately. For this, your toddler needs your help.

Thus the most important rule in handling tantrums is this:

Ignore the behavior, but don’t ignore your child.

Q-tip

Challenging your child by saying, “No laughing,” may be a good way to transform anger into a burst of the giggles. Yet although this is a very useful trick at times, this approach also slights your toddler’s anger. So if you decide to diffuse your child’s anger in this way, be sure to take the time to encourage her to talk about her anger with you afterward, when she has calmed down.

What is your toddler trying to communicate to you through her tantrum? Anger? Frustration? Ask your child what’s wrong and at the same time, encourage her to calm down enough so that you can help her. Let your child know that if she’s frustrated with something, you can’t possibly help her unless you know what’s wrong-but that you can’t understand her when she tries to talk to you in the midst of a hysterical tantrum.

Don’t ignore your child’s expressions of anger. In fact, if they are appropriate, encourage them. Suppressed anger can become even more explosive. So don’t encourage your toddler to rein in her anger or frustration. Instead, teach your child to express it in non-destructive or non-hurtful ways. Allow and encourage your child to express anger and frustration:

• in words;
• by punching a pillow or mattress;
• by slamming clay around on a cutting board;
• by banging a drum;
• by running around outside;
• by doing something brief, loud, and angry: letting out a “primal scream,” yelling, dancing, or singing about her anger; or
• by creating an angry work of art.

The lessons you teach your child about expressing anger and frustration may seem to have little impact during her third year—and perhaps even her fourth. Your toddler (and later, your preschooler) will no doubt still have angry outbursts, violent episodes, and uncontrollable tantrums at least occasionally. In time, however, your child will absorb these lessons. And learning how to handle anger without becoming destructive or hurtful is an invaluable lesson for anyone, child or adult.

Excerpted from The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Parenting a Preschooler and Toddler, Too © 1997 by Keith M. Boyd, M.D., and Kevin Osborn.

Five scholarships will be awarded to area high school seniors this year by the Mission Viejo Activities Committee.  The deadline for all applications is March 20.

Selections will be made based on community service, academic record, potential to succeed, leadership and school participation.  Scholarships will be awarded to students planning on attending four-year schools, community colleges or technical programs.

applications are available at the Mission Viejo Library, Mission Viejo City Hall as well as Capistrano, Trabuco Hills, Tesoro and Santa Margarita Catholic high schools.  Information:  949.830.7066

The Activities Committee, a voluntary and non-profit organization, has awarded $30,000 in scholarships since the program was started in 2001.

Our economy is changing with the emergence of globalization.  It is more important than ever for our students to learn both academic and career curriculum if we are going to develop 21st century workers.

You’ve probably noticed that there is nationwide excitement about the advantages of Career Technical Education (CTE) and the world class benefits that arise for students who combine traditional coursework with hands-on training and on-the-job learning.  Our economy is changing with the emergence of globalization.  IT is more important than ever for our students to learn both academic and career curriculum if we are going to develop 21st century workers.

In California, it is an especially exciting time for CTE!  In January 2007, the State Board of Education adopted CTE frameworks that specify the skills required for students in grades 7 - 12 to be successful in California’s 15 key industries.  With leadership from Jack O’Connell, State Superintendent of Public Instruction, the newly adopted CTE curriculum standards have been designed to the highest caliber, emphasizing rigor, relevance, and relationships.  Governor Schwarzenegger has pledged his support by proposing increase program funding to build and improve technical education programs.

There are numerous programs in Orange County that provide students with opportunities to explore career pathways and participate in hands-on training.  Included in these programs are Career Technical Education (CTE), Regional Occupational Programs (ROP), Service Learning and Work Experience.  Upon completion of coursework in many in many off these programs, high school students not only receive elective credit toward graduation, but many ROP and CTE courses also qualify for University of California, California State University, and community college credit.

According to a study conducted by the University of California, Riverside, students participating in ROP programs showed proven improvement in school, enjoyed greater success in both college and careers, and found greater relevance from their studies than their peers who did not take an ROP class.

Unique to ROP, classes and curriculum are based on labor market reports, current trends, and input from business advisers in the community to create and maintain up to date and innovative career electives.  Many courses also include an internship which allows high school students the opportunity to try their hand at a career in a real world setting while earning elective credit toward graduation.  ROP teachers are credentialed and experienced in the fields they teach and courses are offered in approximately 15 industry sectors.  Course offerings in new and emerging fields such as Animation, Computer Programming, Crime Scene Investigation, Home Technology Integration, and Sport Medicine are being developed every semester.

Classes are offered at various times during the school day, after school and on weekends to provide flexibility when students are planning their schedules.  To register, students should visit the career cent on campus or speak to their school counselor, Combining CTE programs with traditional courses allow high school students to forge a vital connection to their future and make the most of a world class education where every student succeeds.

For more info on ROP, go to the following websites:

www.ccrop.org

www.coastlinerop.us

www.nocrop.us

www.capolagrop.k12.ca.us

www.carocp.org

Parents often ask how they can help their children navigate through high school to be prepared for college.  Studies show that students are much more likely to excel when their parents stay involved.  Parents should keep track of their student’s progress, encourage goal setting and consult regularly with the student’s academic advisor.

High school students who aspire to attend college should take a rigorous course of academic classes.  Classes that are the most challenging, such as honors, International Baccalaureate, and Advanced Placement courses, will give the student the best possible preparation for the admissions competition and the demands of college.

One of the key things parents can do is to make sure their sons and daughters take the appropriate “A-through-G” classes required by the University of California (UC) and California State University (CSU) systems.  To meet he minimum eligibility requirements, applicants must have completed a series of high school college-preparatory courses that provide a strong academic foundation, including, but not limited to:

Two years of history/social science; Four years of English’ Three years of mathematics including advanced algebra and geometry (four years of math are strongly recommended); Two years of laboratory science (three years are strongly recommended):  Two years of a language other than English (three years are strongly recommended); One year of visual and performing arts; and One year of a college-preparatory elective.

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