Help Your Child Understand What Their Talents Are

Everyone of us has strengths and weaknesses.  When did you start to realize what yours were?  The earlier we come to understand ourselves, the more satisfied and productive we can become.  Here are seven things we can do to help our children discover their own abilities as well as shortcomings.

Check out your children when they are in different settings.  When children are either working or playing, a parent can see which tasks come easily and which are more difficult for their child.  Do they enjoy certain things more than others?

Affirm and Challenge Your Kids.  Give your children lots of kudos for the strengths that they have  while at the same time challenging them in the areas they have troubles in.  We all have room to improve in both our strengths as well as weaknesses.

Give Feedback to Your Kids.  Evaluate with your children which tasks they like and which they dislike.  Tasks that we enjoy are typically our strengths and vice versa.  One of the questions I ask during my consultations is which subjects the student likes the most and the one they like the least.  Invariably, the subjects they hate are the one that they are seeking tutoring in.

Do Kids Have to Improve?  Some parents want PERFECT kids but we all know that that isn’t really possible.  Make sure that the skills you encourage your children to get better at are important ones.  If they spend too much time working on their imperfections that are not really that important in the big scheme of things, they will have less time to work on and improve what they are really good at!

Don’t Buttonhole Kids Too Early in Life.  Your kids will most probably excel at something early on in their lives.  Allow their interests and abilities to change over time.  What they excelled in earlier in life may not be what they want to focus on later.  A good parenting approach might be to affirm the child in all of their abilities and encourage them to keep exploring.

Encourage your children to try many different things.  I told my kids they only had to try it once and never do it again if they didn’t like it, but that gave them exposure to the many different activities in life.